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This weekend we went to church and experienced one of the most obnoxious ten-year-olds in the world. (Disclaimer: I do not believe that he was mentally disabled in any way, because what he was doing was just straight up rude and I have seen him in church before and he was not acting in this same manner.) This kid whispered extremely loudly to his mother that he was "HUNNNNGGRRRYYYYYYY" and that he wanted some of his 3-year-old sister's crackers. After he got the host, he put it on the end of his tongue, stuck OUT his tongue, made sure that enough people were watching him, and then happily pulled it back into his mouth. This kid was simply acting out to get attention, and it was ridiculous.
David and I both agree that we notice when kids act out a lot. We are in a weird place in life where bad behavior from kids isn't understandable to us yet, because we have never had to experience wielding a 2-year-old, a 7-year-old, and a shopping cart. We are old enough, however, to make note of bad behavior because we definitely think about having kids. When we saw this kid acting really goofily in church, we looked at each other and whispered, "Ours will be different." This little ritual comes from an episode of Sex and the City, and it is our reminder to not be so judgmental.
There is a Sex and the City scene that I love as a married twenty-something. In the scene, Charlotte and Trey have another family over for dinner and the kids are absolutely terrible. They complain about their seating, the food, the drinks, and that they are tired, and the entire ordeal ends with the parents of the children fighting while Charlotte and Trey look on. Later in the episode (I can't find the exact quotation on the Internet after a few quick searches), Carrie mentions how all couples who do not have children but who want children must tell themselves a little lie, that their kids will be different.
After experiencing some really crazy kids, I have to agree. People are lying to themselves if they think that their kids will be or are perfect, that they never annoy anybody else, or that they are always adorable. That is just a fact of life. When people like us who are married and nearer to having kids than ever see children acting out, we need to remember that we will be in that same situation some day. We will be the ones with the screaming child in the restaurant, the runaway in the grocery store, or the kid who NEVER listens. That is just a part of life, and it does not necessarily make people bad parents.
"Our kids will be different" is a sarcastic statement that reminds our still moderately selfish selves that some day we will have to be extremely unselfish. Some day our kids will drive us crazy in public. And for now, I suppose that we should take these experiences as learning experiences.
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
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Tuesday, September 29, 2009
David Brooks often has very interesting and poignant columns. Here is one that I found interesting about the increase of consumption in America.
I saw this recipe here on Smitten Kitchen's blog a longgggg time ago and bookmarked it. Lately I've been having a crazing for tangy salads, so I thought I would whip this up for fun. Boy was it delicious. That week I also made tomato soup homemade and the crostini and the soup paired so well together that the effect was divine. Mmmmm!
Monday, September 28, 2009
This week is going to be very, very boring, due to the fact that David is really busy at work and when he's not home to eat supper I get lazier.
Monday: leftover chili for me!
Tuesday: leftover chili for me!
Wednesday: leftover chili for me! (Do you see a pattern here?)
Thursday: pasta with eggplant thanks to my grandma who sent one home with us yesterday
Friday: leftover pasta!
Sad, I know.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Thursday, September 24, 2009
We had so much fun tailgating this weekend. My awesome friend Julie came up for the occasion and we used my dad's parking pass to bbq! We also went to my cousin Emily's tailgate for fun:
I love tailgating season!
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
David and I had a photo shoot recently for a project that I'm trying to complete for a little Halloween cheer. The goal was to get a good picture of our three animals. In Halloween costumes. Behind a cute pumpkin. As you can see it didn't go well.
(Thorina was a rooster and Arwen was a reindeer.)
I found Maureen Dowd's recent article in the New York Times incredibly interesting. It summarizes a recent study that posits that women as a whole are more unhappy now than they were thirty years ago, and that women as a gender become more unhappy as they age, whereas men become happier.
What an interesting finding. Some people blame this unhappiness on the transition of women in the workforce. These people note phenomenon of the Second Shift, a name for the fact that many women still come home from work and work a "Second Shift" of work, in which they do laundry, clean, cook, and make their house presentable. There is still a disparity between the amount of housework that men and women accomplish. However men have also been making strides in the home front. The modern man does not think twice about coming home and doing the dishes to help his working wife. Therefore, the Second Shift can not really explain the lack of happiness: while women are still in charge of the housework, men are helping more and more, so their responsibilities are declining.
However, despite this, I recently read an article in the Ladies' Home Journal that noted that while men are helping out more and more around the house, women are still the CEOs of the house, taking charge of the job list and telling the man what jobs to complete and how to complete them. I know that when I come home and see a sink full of dishes, I stress. But it seems that when David comes home they do not faze him. The difference between about what men stress and about what women stress may have to do with this lack of happiness. Maybe while the men are helping out more and more, women are still left with the emotional and mental stress regarding the housework?
This has to be stressful for men as well. The article in the LHJ also noted that men get frustrated when their wives expect them to simply know (for example) how to sew a button, especially when they grew up in more traditional households. Men also probably get a bad rap for doing things incorrectly (like the dishes), when they are simply mimicking a different style of doing the household chores (i.e. the way their mother did the chores versus the way their wives do the chores). This translates to "not knowing" how to do the housework.
This does not seem fair to men, either.
What do you think could be the source of the decline of female happiness?
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
Monday: leftover tomato soup
Tuesday: Ribs and corn on the cob
Wednesday: leftover ribs and tomato soup
My new favorite pun: let's have some halibut for the halibut!
Sunday, September 20, 2009
I just read a terribly interesting article in the New York Times about the last words of executed prisoners in Texas.
A few were incredibly poignant and gut-wrenching:
They may execute me but they can’t punish me because they can’t execute an innocent man.
Give me my rights. Give me my rights. Give me my rights. Give me my life back.
A few focused on forgiveness:
Lord Jesus forgive of my sins. Please forgive me for the sins that I can remember.
I am sorry.
Could you please tell that lady right there — can I see her? She is not looking at me — I want you to understand something, hold no animosity toward me. I want you to understand. Please forgive me.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
David's mom kindly gave us cute "Congratulations" balloons after we ran our half-marathon. The cats think that the balloons were brought expressly for their enjoyment, and have spent the past week batting the balloon strings and balloon around the house.
Yes, I do realize that lately I've been blogging about my cats a lot, and that this indicates that this blog is turning into a lamefest, but I love my cats so I don't care!
Friday, September 18, 2009
I want to start doing blog highlights on a regular basis because so many of my real-life friends have started blogging (or already blogged before) and I think their blogs are wonderful! I know that a lot of you are still enjoying Matt's Blog, but I have other friends who blog!
My next blog highlight will be about The Fabulous Adventures of Mrs. Haid. Mrs. Haid is my friendly and fun neighbor. After she had us over to her house for a fun dinner one night, we discovered that we both blogged. I know that I went through her archives that very night and read them for fun! It has been really cool to get to know my neighbor not only in regular, everyday life and interaction, but also though her blog.
Mrs. Haid's blog is about her daily life, which includes fabulous product reviews, recipes, and more recently her newest addition to her family: her baby DHH! It has been so much fun watching someone who is about my age adjusting to having a baby and being a wonderful mamma. Mrs. Haid is not only a great neighbor, but also a great friend and blog writer!
You can also find her link on the left-hand side of my page, so hop on over and give her some blog love!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
My friend Ashley linked to a very interesting post today on her blog, which basically expressed resentment toward the author's church elders who argued that providing health care is a duty of a church or individuals rather than a government. The author posited that if this is the case, then churches should in fact go ahead and start a food bank, donate to health care for the poor, and feed the hungry.
But some churches already do this...and (while I don't want this to become a battle over church charities), I think that these are very effective. It is no secret that I am Catholic, and I am referring to charities such as Catholic Charities and the Society of St. Vincent de Paul. This summer when I worked for legal aid in a city center, one of the resources they often called was Catholic Charities, which helped women in domestic violence situations. I was proud to go to a church that so strongly supported the second largest social service provider in the United States (after the United States government).
This discussion brought to mind this very interesting op-ed piece in the New York Times that ran a few months ago about the place of Catholics in the realm of American politics. While so many Catholic churches tout the abortion issue as the number one issue of Catholics, there is actually an ongoing debate on where Catholics really stand: at the right or the left.
What do you think? How does your religion or moral principals play into your political beliefs? If you are not Catholic, please share some of the charities and resources your church provides to the poor so that I don't feel as if I am leaving other churches out of this post!
I've been slowly recovering from the half marathon on Sunday and feel better! Yesterday I ran around two miles and this morning I walked and ran around 1 mile. We are hoping to get a longer run under our belts this weekend so that both of us can get back into the groove of running.
I feel that my body recovered really well from the half marathon on Sunday. Sunday was horrible...I felt so sore, but then Monday I felt so much better. Now we are all planning our next race!
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
A few weekends ago David and I drove to a winery near Des Moines, Iowa for one of his coworker's weddings. Can I just say something? Winery receptions are awesome. It was so fun to try different wines and the food was so tasty.
The best part of the wedding was the food. They had different food stations, including Classic, Mexican, and Italian. Guests were free to roam around, enjoying the wine and different stations. It was fun to taste all of the food including pork tacos, pork tenderloin (can you tell we were in Iowa?), and pasta. YUM! On top of that, we had a fabulous time and the drive up there was not too bad:
We did get lost in Des Moines (don't ask how that was possible). We make the same mistake every single time we go on a trip. This is how it works:
1. Abbie asks David to print off directions.
2. David prints off "directions".
3. David forgets to print off a crucial part of the directions, like a map, but in this case it was the route home because he figured we could just follow the directions to the destination backwards.
4. Abbie does not check the directions before they leave.
5. As they are going, they get mildly confused.
6. Abbie checks the map.
7. Abbie remembers that the map on which they rely is in fact David's grandma and grandpa's old United States atlas book (we bought the car from them), which, for some reason, has random states ripped out of the book.
8. Of course the state needed is gone.
9. Abbie gets mad at herself for not remembering another atlas yet again.
10. David and Abbie wonder why one half of Iowa would be ripped out of the map and can't think of a reason, but are somewhat comforted by the fact that they have directions to David's sister's old apartment after she graduated from college tucked into the book.
11. David and Abbie reach the destination.
12. David and Abbie leave to head home.
13. They get lost.
14. David regrets not printing out the going to and coming home directions.
15. David and Abbie vow to buy a Garmin.
16. They look online, decide that it costs too much money, and choose to yet again go through this cycle.
Monday, September 14, 2009
In lieu of Menu Monday, I present to you the pictures and story of my first ever half marathon! It was so awesome and I am really happy that we did it. Julie thinks that I suggested it to her but I think that she suggested it to me but at any rate we ran it (mostly) together the entire time! We had such a blast.
First of all, let me tell you a little bit about our training since I have not had a chance to do so yet. I usually run a four mile, six mile, six mile, and then a two mile run during the week. On the weekends, David and I usually go on a long run, with our two longest hitting ten miles. Besides that, I attend around four rec center classes at my college during the week.
The night before the race we went out to eat at a pasta place to do some serious carb loading. After that, David and I had a relaxing evening at his parents' house and went to bed pretty early. I slept okay---basically I was so nervous about getting enough sleep that I could not fall asleep for a while. But finally I relaxed and dozed off. At 1:30 in the morning I woke again, thinking "OH NO WE MISSED OUR ALARM AND WILL MISS THE RACE!" Of course as soon as I looked at the clock I realized that we were fine.
Finally I woke up at 4:30 a.m. David and I were both very excited. We set off to the race, met Julie, and then parked our car near the starting line. The funniest part of this entire process was going to the bathroom. I was so scared that I would have to go to the bathroom during the race that I went to the port-o-potty three times before it started.
Julie and I started together and ran together for about ten miles. Her mom and sister cheered us on the sidelines, which is how we got this picture:
The race itself went pretty well. I did very well until mile 10 when I just hit a huge wall. During mile 9 I had some Gu, which I think actually contributed to this wall. My stomach started to hurt and my legs literally felt like they would fall off. I had one person advise me to eat the Gu and one person advise me against eating it because it made his stomach hurt during a race.
Miles 10-13 were by far the hardest miles for me. I felt like I could not go on running. I tried to stop and walk for a bit, but oddly enough running felt better so I ran again. I just went ultra, ultra slow and took it easy.
Our official times will be posted this week, but I unofficially ran a 2:38, Julie ran a 2:28 (I'm so proud of her! This was her first race EVER), and David ran a 1:48.
Here are a few tips/things I wish we had done differently/things that I will remember to do next time:
1. Stop when I get water and stop to go to the bathroom during the race. I stopped to do these things while we practiced our 10-mile long runs, and I really think that NOT doing this hindered me and contributed to the last three mile breakdown I experienced.
2. Do NOT eat Gu if you have never done so before. I felt queasy during the three final miles and after the race. Then, on the way home, I threw it up (sorry to be gross but I want to give tips to future half marathoners!) along with it came my post-run snacks and water. Was I dehydrated? I don't think so: I drank water throughout the race, before the race, and didn't down a large amount all at once after the race. I truly think that my stomach rejected the Gu. Next time I will bring a peanut butter sandwich or a granola bar to eat either right before or during the race.
3. Go ahead and practice the 13 miles. They say that you should not do this, but David and I both agreed that if we had practiced the full 13 miles we would have felt more mentally prepared. After running the ten miles we both said to ourselves, "Wow that was fine, we have ran that distance before. Oh man, but we still have three miles left to go." As it was we were running ten miles at a time, so the extra three probably would not have made a difference (as long as we did it well before the race, of course).
4. Drive the race course! This is worth your time and I felt that again, it would have prepared me for the race.
5. Do not expect it to be easy. The half marathon is definitely a mental AND a physical challenge. You need to learn how to deal with running long distances mentally before your race just as you practice running before the race.
It was fun at the end to enjoy food and WATER. David's grandma was a worker at the race so it was nice to have someone waiting for us at the end of the race.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
...but our wonderful friend Josh came to visit and we got to see him! He lives all the way in Seattle and we seriously miss him. Moreover, our good friends Amy and Scott came to visit as well! Amy is one of my best college buddies and we always have fun together.
Friday, September 11, 2009
As we go about and enjoy our wonderful autumn days today, let us not forget the tragedy that happened eight years ago. On September 11, 2001, I was getting ready for school and watching the Today show. When I left, Matt Lauer had reported that someone accidentally ran into the first tower with an airplane.
You may enjoy these pictures from the New York Times:
See the pictures here.
I have a friend who is a firefighter/paramedic (my friend Julie's new husband!). While being an attorney may take a lot of schooling and time, being a public service worker who is willing to face immediate danger to help strangers takes a special kind of love for your fellow humans. So thank you to all of you who give your lives to service for others.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
I have been feeling pretty out of it today and I have felt out of it for the last few days. Why? I have no idea. My brain feels scattered everywhere and I feel like I have been thinking of a million things at once. And yet when I do need to have a cohesive thought, I do not.
My friend and I were talking about it tonight and she thinks it involves the fact that we are back in school and we are not used to thinking so much.
In other news, I got shoes like the ones above and lurrrveee them. They are so comfy. The problem is that they are suede so I cannot wear them in the rain. I must remember that!
Wednesday, September 09, 2009
- Apparently today was an internet holiday called A Day Without Cats. At our house, that means that it was a very sad day. Who would want a Day Without Cats? And just to act in defiance to this, I am posting a picture of Arwen and another picture of Thorina:
- I am kind of tired of hearing about the Obama school speech deal. Why is it such a problem for people? And are Republicans forgetting that Presidents Bush and Reagan did the same thing? Are Democrats forgetting that they made a huge fuss when President Bush made his speech? And yes I've heard how people are not really mad about the speech, but mad at the timing or the study materials. If schools do not have time to broadcast the speech, fine. If parents want to throw out the materials, fine. Maybe we should be using our breath to talk about other issues instead. I loved this post by Mrs. Newlywed regarding the issue.
- I can't stand the drivers in the town where I live. I live in a college town and everybody says that the college kids are actually the bad drivers. NOT true, in my opinion. The dangerous drivers are the residents like the middle-aged lady in her huge SUV who almost sideswiped (is this a word?) me yesterday. Conversely, I can't stand the college-aged bikers around here. Put on a helmet.
- I made homemade kettle corn tonight. It was so tasty. Simply pop a saucepan full of corn and add a syrup (boil 2/3 cup of brown sugar, 2 TBSP of water and 2 TBSP of veggie oil). Then add salt. Viola!
Tuesday, September 08, 2009
David and I are running a half marathon in the next few weeks and it is time for me to start thinking of my playlist for the event. I like really upbeat songs while I am running, but I also enjoy some songs that are slower. Here are a few songs I'll definitely have on my playlist:
"Borderline" by Madonna:
"Viva La Vida" by Coldplay:
"The Fear" by Lily Allen:
And my all-time favorite running song--"Running" by No Doubt:
What are some of your favorite workout songs?
Monday, September 07, 2009
Happy Labor Day, everybody!
Sorry that Menu Monday is a little late this week.
Monday: leftover tacos from David's mom's fireworks party this weekend
Tuesday: again, leftover tacos and leftover fried rice from last Friday.
Thursday: Salmon and Rice
Friday: out to eat with David's brother, Peter!
Sunday, September 06, 2009
Sometimes I think that she sees me make myself a water and thinks to herself, "Gee! How nice of my mommy to make me a fresh and filtered water. She is soooo thoughtful." She's not even supposed to be on the table!
ARGH! This, of course, requires getting back up, dumping out the water, and getting a new glass of water.
Saturday, September 05, 2009
David and I have completed two ten-mile runs now. This may be my favorite kind of run. It took us two hours today, but we did it and now I feel so good and energized. Let's see if this lasts or if I crash in a messy heap later today to take a nap.
Friday, September 04, 2009
I am not joking, unfortunately. Highlighters are essential to any law student's studies. Here are my favorites:Sharpie Accent Liquid Highlighters- Source
My favorite color is the classic yellow color. It gets the job done without being too intrusive on your book. My least favorite color? Orange. I can't stand orange for some reason. Green and pink are acceptable, and too often purple and blue are too dark to see the words.
Labels: fun thing friday
Thursday, September 03, 2009
Ever since I've heard of push presents, I've wanted one. What a great idea! A present from your hubby after you undergo (hopefully) the greatest physical pain of your life? Yes please!
Some people scoff at the idea. What are your thoughts? I truly can see the other side to this story, but David and I really do not give each other jewelry-type gifts...ever. We always do trips or just do not give each other gifts. So I look at it as one of my only opportunities to get beautiful jewelry to hand down to my children.
I've heard of other people getting things like a camera, a new lens, etc., for theirs...did you get one? If so were you glad? If not do you wish you had one? Do you think they are a good idea?
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
If you make clam chowder leftovers in the microwave, it may pop when you take it out. Onto your face. Onto your walls. Onto your stove.
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
My friend Ashley got married a few weekends ago. The wedding and the bride were both gorgeous! The wedding took place in a small country church and the reception was fun.
It seems that a lot of our friends are getting married this summer. In a few more years everybody will be having babies!
My law school friends, Justine, Chelsea, Ashley, and me.